Divorce can be one of the most challenging moments in a person’s life, and that becomes even more contentious when your partner displays narcissistic traits. The process may be the first time your partner feels they are losing control, which can create a high-conflict situation. This can also become a new opportunity for your partner to try to manipulate. While every situation is different, there are some common behaviors narcissists display during divorce proceedings that you can prepare for:
Refusing any sort of compromise
Narcissistic behavior often comes out in a desire to “win” regardless of reasonable settlement terms being offered.
Using the legal process for control
You may unfortunately find yourself in what feels like an endless cycle of excessive motions, delayed appearances, and nitpicking terms.
Attempting to control or twist the narrative
They say “there are two sides to every story,” but you may find that one side of the story is fabricated or embellished to make your partner seem like the victim. This can range from small white lies to full-on accusations of illegal activities.
Using children as a weapon
As much as we all wish to keep our children out of divorce, that is especially challenging when one partner displays narcissistic behavior. Involving children to get information or trying to poison them against the other parent is common.
Violating court orders
High-conflict divorces rarely proceed with everyone following the court’s rules, which can add another layer of stress and turmoil.
In preparing for divorce when narcissistic traits come into play, the best line of protection is employing an experienced legal team that can help you navigate the obstacles along the way. Your lawyer will help ensure all negotiations are properly documented and hopefully minimize emotional confrontations, leading you to a reasonable resolution.