What Are The ‘Best Interests of the Child?’ During a Divorce?

There’s no denying that divorces aren’t easy. And, they’re especially difficult when kids are involved. Your kids will likely question if they’re to blame, if there’s a possibility of you and your ex making amends, and insecurity about the future. 

These are all normal emotions and if you’re currently navigating through a divorce and want to make sure that the best interests of your child or children are at the forefront, we have three helpful tips to consider.

Ask them how they feel…Often.

Communication, in fact overcommunication is a necessity during this chapter in your child’s life. At this point, they’ll have a lot of emotions and questions surrounding your divorce. Make a concerted effort to consistently check on them and ask them how they’re feeling. 

Keeping those lines of communication open will give them the platform to speak their minds, ask the questions they have, and begin the healing process.

Never fight in front of your kids

Your children are likely struggling as it is dealing with the fact that his/her parents are getting divorced. It’s for this reason that you shouldn’t add more fuel to the fire by fighting in front of them. 

Doing so magnifies the situation and creates unnecessary added tension for all parties involved. 

Your goal as a parent is to do your best to keep a calm, positive environment during a tumultuous time in everyone’s lives.

Never speak negatively about your ex

You could absolutely despise your ex, but never and we repeat NEVER speak negatively about your ex in front of your children. 

Kids are like sponges and if you speak badly about your ex in front of your kids, they’ll begin to harness those emotions as well.

If you feel the urge to say a negative comment, take a deep breath and realize that you wouldn’t want your ex speaking badly about you in front of your kids. 

Remember, your children are emotionally fragile and this is especially true during a divorce.

Keep these three tips in mind to help you navigate these uncharted waters of divorce with a positive outlook.