Moving on after divorce, no matter how emotionally strong a person you may be, is a challenge. Regardless of the circumstances that led to the divorce or who may be ‘at fault’, divorce is a rollercoaster of emotions that you may feel you’ll never get off of. Going through a divorce tends to leave people feeling a range of emotions—anger, fear, confusion, humiliation, and depression. Perhaps you feel stifled by loneliness. Many of you may be feeling an overwhelming sense of loss right now. But, we’re here to give you hope that you will be ok (perhaps even better than before); try these 6 ways to move on after a divorce.
Focus On Yourself
As experienced Tampa divorce attorneys, we understand how hard it can be to adjust to being single again, especially if you have been married for many years. To move on after divorce, you have to start by focusing on yourself.
Use this time to rediscover who you are and explore where your passions lie. This will help you when you think you don’t have the strength to move forward. You’ll be amazed at what you never knew was there inside of you.
The Haves Not the Have Nots
The saying goes ‘fake it ‘til you make it’ can also apply to moving on after divorce. At times, you may find yourself focusing on the things you don’t have and can’t do. These thoughts may mentally hold you back from moving forward with your life.
That said, don’t be inauthentic or hide your feelings from those who support you, just do your best to focus on the positives. The things that you do have can be really powerful drivers in moving on after divorce.
Stay Positive for the Kids
If you and your ex had kids, then for better or worse, their lives were changed too and without their consent. It’s your responsibility to your children to keep their relationship with both parents positive and loving, if possible.
If your decisions are based on what’s best for your kids and staying positive (even if just for them), then that positive attitude will likely rub off on other aspects of your daily life.
Find Stimulating Work
When rebuilding your life after divorce, it’s not just a changing dynamic for your kids (custody and child care arrangements) to think about. Our family lawyers realize that you’re likely worried about money and work too while doing your best to figure out who you are and what you want in your life going forward.
Stimulating work will keep your mind busy; find something that can build your unique skills. Focusing on your professional growth and socializing for business is a great place to start when moving forward from your divorce.
This is a time to refocus on you so use it to its fullest. Be selfish; say no to events that may not put you in a positive mindset. When moving on from divorce, it’s important that you have pleasure in your life.
Moving on after divorce starts and ends with you. We see many clients who blame themselves for their divorce. You have to forgive yourself. Harboring feelings of inadequacy and beating yourself up will not help you move forward.
We understand you want to move on as quickly as possible after a divorce. The divorce process is not easy or fun, but you can and will make it through this transition in your life. Remember: you’re not alone. There are many others living your lifestyle who understand and are there for you. Lean on our experienced Tampa, FL divorce attorneys led by Christina Anton Garcia. If you’re considering divorce or have recently been served with divorce papers, our lawyers will be with you every step of the way. Contact us today to schedule your free consultation!