When you get married, you go into the marriage with the intention that it’s for life.
Unfortunately, that’s not always the case as more than 50 percent of couples are getting divorced in America.
Nobody said that marriage was easy. It’s a daily commitment that requires a great deal of time and attention to make it work in order to learn and grow.
It’s tough and it’s undeniably an arduous journey at times.
While some couples can navigate these uncharted territories together and with a united front, there are couples who struggle. And, those struggles, if not addressed can lead to deep-rooted issues that are hard to shake.
In some cases, divorce is inevitable and in other instances, it’s a slow burn that culminates one day with talks of divorce that seem to come out of nowhere.
Whatever the case may be, it’s important to pay attention to the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that your marriage is over.
You’re not including your spouse in financial decisions
Money is a hot-button topic in many relationships. It can be the cause of happiness and it can also be the cause of strife.
Of course, it’s fine to have separate bank accounts and make menial purchases like a cup of coffee before work without your spouse’s consent, but it’s a whole different story if you’re making major purchases without any heads up or discussion.
Money is a major sticking point and it’s important to keep an open dialogue. When those conversations taper off and you or your spouse are making purchases without mention, there could be bigger issues in the marriage that need to be addressed.
Fixing What’s Broken Isn’t a Top Priority
If it’s broken, fix it. That’s the adage that we’ve been taught, however, it’s easier said than done when it comes to marriage. As we mentioned before, marriage is difficult, it’s a full-time job and it’s an added layer to our life that requires attention to nurture it.
When there are fractures in your relationship, you have two choices, put a bandaid on it and hope it goes away. Or, take the time and put in the effort to reset things and mend the problem?
If you find yourself not willing to bend and fix what’s broken, you could be closer to divorce than you think.
Meeting in The Middle Isn’t An Option
We all want to be right. However, when you’re in a marriage, you have to be OK with not being right in every situation. Marriage requires compromise and if you’re not willing to meet in the middle, there’s trouble in paradise. Couples who are committed to making things work will go the extra mile to do so and this means that you won’t get what you want every single time and you’re OK with that.
Things Get Personal
Couples fight. It’s a normal occurrence but when those arguments turn personal, that’s not a good sign. If your spouse forgets to take out the trash and you handle the situation with an unrelated personal dig, that’s a sign that there’s a larger problem at hand.
Being blindsided by a divorce isn’t something that anyone wants and that’s why it’s important to keep these signs in mind when looking at your marriage.
If you’re going through a divorce and need the guidance of an expert, we can help.